MartyLOVE AND THE HUMAN CONDITION
September 28th 2008 15:11
I've been on the road traveling lately and have neglected this blog. I still have some extensive traveling to do in the next few weeks, but I need to tell a story about an incredible man I recently met.
This isn't my usual political rant & rave on politics, but I promise to return to that format very soon.
Recently, one morning I went to a supermarket that also had a florist since I needed to buy anniversary flowers for my beloved long-haired Irish Babe.
A couple, he in his sixties and she in her fifties, enter the store about the same time as I did. She was wearing a black running suit with white pinstripes, pink sneakers, and a pink baseball cap covering her bald head. Once in the store she kissed him and went with a cart to get groceries and he came over to the flower area next to me.
We both selected 2 dozen roses. " Lavender for love a first sight and white to show pure love," he said.
We laughed and he started talking to me about his wife. He motioned towards her and said," Isn't she the most beautiful woman you've ever seen!"
"Yes, " I said, " with the exception of one."
He smiled, " Your Wife?"
"Yes."
He sighed heavily and said " Isn't it wonderful to love someone with all your heart."
It was a statement, not a question.
Then he just started telling me his story while we waited for our flowers to be made into a bouquet.
They have been together for 23 years, but about 3 years ago she began an affair with someone from her past who was also married. She tried to cover it up, but he found out and confronted her. She tried to deny it to keep their son and daughter from finding out about it. Each live in a different State.
He told her they would never know because he still loved her, but only wanted her to be happy.
They were in the slow process of parting when his daughter called and told him that "Mom" had been diagnosed with breast cancer and was hiding it from him.
He confronted her with this and she told him it was true and that the other man had dropped her immediately when he found out. She told him she just couldn't tell him and was just going to leave and face it alone. She also told him she loved him too much to put him through this agony after she had betrayed him.
He told her he only loved her and had always loved her from the first day they met and that he couldn't lose her now.
For the last 3 years they have gone through all the treatments, but were recently informed there wasn't any thing more to do.....the cancer had spread.
He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, " I won't have her this time next year." His total sincere love for his wife overwhelmed me at that moment and I put my arm around his shoulders, but couldn't find any words.
He then went on to tell me that next Spring or sooner when their time together is almost over, she wants to go camping with him out West under a big beautiful sky where she can cross over while looking up and being held in his arms. She told him that when it is time she wants him to hold her tightly so she can take his love with her and to give her one last kiss so he would know how much she truly loves him.
About this time he saw his wife wave to him from the checkout counter. He shook my hand and wished me a happy anniversary.
I watched him walk over to her and she gently touched his face, giggled as she took the flowers and kissed him.
He looked over at me and smiled. They left the store with him pushing the cart and her holding onto his arm and kissing his neck.
My only thought was what an incredible individual I had just been gifted with meeting and I don't even know his name.
Ironically, when I told my wife, lover and friend about this encounter she gave me my anniversary gift.
A copy of Randy Pausch's book, "The Last Lecture," with the following inscription:
" I love you so much...always have....always will. I Love you more than all the moons and all the stars and all the Universe.....And all there ever was...Forever."
Incredible Timing. What more can I ask from someone I love.
Folks, never forget what is truly important in life.........The Human Condition.
This isn't my usual political rant & rave on politics, but I promise to return to that format very soon.
Recently, one morning I went to a supermarket that also had a florist since I needed to buy anniversary flowers for my beloved long-haired Irish Babe.
A couple, he in his sixties and she in her fifties, enter the store about the same time as I did. She was wearing a black running suit with white pinstripes, pink sneakers, and a pink baseball cap covering her bald head. Once in the store she kissed him and went with a cart to get groceries and he came over to the flower area next to me.
We both selected 2 dozen roses. " Lavender for love a first sight and white to show pure love," he said.
We laughed and he started talking to me about his wife. He motioned towards her and said," Isn't she the most beautiful woman you've ever seen!"
"Yes, " I said, " with the exception of one."
He smiled, " Your Wife?"
"Yes."
He sighed heavily and said " Isn't it wonderful to love someone with all your heart."
It was a statement, not a question.
Then he just started telling me his story while we waited for our flowers to be made into a bouquet.
They have been together for 23 years, but about 3 years ago she began an affair with someone from her past who was also married. She tried to cover it up, but he found out and confronted her. She tried to deny it to keep their son and daughter from finding out about it. Each live in a different State.
He told her they would never know because he still loved her, but only wanted her to be happy.
He confronted her with this and she told him it was true and that the other man had dropped her immediately when he found out. She told him she just couldn't tell him and was just going to leave and face it alone. She also told him she loved him too much to put him through this agony after she had betrayed him.
He told her he only loved her and had always loved her from the first day they met and that he couldn't lose her now.
For the last 3 years they have gone through all the treatments, but were recently informed there wasn't any thing more to do.....the cancer had spread.
He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, " I won't have her this time next year." His total sincere love for his wife overwhelmed me at that moment and I put my arm around his shoulders, but couldn't find any words.
He then went on to tell me that next Spring or sooner when their time together is almost over, she wants to go camping with him out West under a big beautiful sky where she can cross over while looking up and being held in his arms. She told him that when it is time she wants him to hold her tightly so she can take his love with her and to give her one last kiss so he would know how much she truly loves him.
About this time he saw his wife wave to him from the checkout counter. He shook my hand and wished me a happy anniversary.
I watched him walk over to her and she gently touched his face, giggled as she took the flowers and kissed him.
He looked over at me and smiled. They left the store with him pushing the cart and her holding onto his arm and kissing his neck.
My only thought was what an incredible individual I had just been gifted with meeting and I don't even know his name.
Ironically, when I told my wife, lover and friend about this encounter she gave me my anniversary gift.
A copy of Randy Pausch's book, "The Last Lecture," with the following inscription:
" I love you so much...always have....always will. I Love you more than all the moons and all the stars and all the Universe.....And all there ever was...Forever."
Incredible Timing. What more can I ask from someone I love.
Folks, never forget what is truly important in life.........The Human Condition.
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